familiar:
make yourself a few pounds to lose weight, exercise more disciplined in certain tasks in the future to remain low down like regular apartment cleaning, more to report in a meeting to speak about their own opinion introduce better and much more.
These are often well-meaning intentions, behave in certain situations differently, or make changes in our practices in professional or private life. But such intentions are so good sometimes be made, many people often fail because of the sustained implementation and fall very quickly back into their old patterns of behavior. A change or a successful improvement is not noticeable.
enable them to tackle future projects more successful here are some important points about self-change.
The self-change are our first set strict limits once and we must do above all something very important even aware of: If we
always talk about self-change, then this kan only to changes in personal lifestyle related, but not to large changes in the character.
is remarkable for self-transformation but the idea that we should but actually very easy for us to change ourselves. Each of us must do it only really own it?
If we want to change other people, then we can deny the still and it does not really like, but if we want to change yourself, and also really want this, how we can deny us that? Is that even possible? Is that possible?
The first one
sounds perfectly logical, but is exactly the problem. For how many times have we all been done the things we really wanted it correctly. Determined each of us knows these points. We wanted to quit smoking, more exercise, stop working so much, have more family time, spend a day in the week as a rest day really, annoy us so much more and much more.
These changes we probably wanted to implement truly from the deepest and innermost conviction. And yet it happened often quite different! As the result of often saw it?
Our intentions were like an airplane that rolls while on the runway but not for flight apart.
But how can that be if we really wanted?
The reason for this is that our conscious will, our unconscious self opposes the limbic level. On this level is our limbic emotional conditioning. Either by shock-like learning - it's something extremely positive or extremely negative or practice through constant repetition and slow, through, practice, practice. The interesting thing is that forgotten in the emotional conditioning, the areas involved in anything. It is therefore pointless change emotionally conditioned behavior by instruction and insight to do. Behavioral changes can therefore only be renewed emotional Conditioning place.
What remains to us now, our limbic levels "to soften", is the I self-motivation. Because I self-motivation is always necessary when we begin to ask the question of meaning, if doubts or if we believe that we would not make it.
The first and most important step towards self-change is in such moments, the question of other options:
- What do I do if I can not reach the requirements of the implementation or meet?
- What do I do if I give up my job?
- What do I do if I break off the negotiations? If it
this, are other possibilities, one can consider this also be addressed. This in turn depends, however, by their own personality and temperament from their own. And if you ever get discouraged, then often used in reference with regard to other possibilities. And then this inner conflict emerges: first, the need for change, on the other, the fear of change. When looking at then change the external circumstances can not, then there is only one way: The self-change!
If so, based on the self-transformation, only the ego-self-motivation is left, then but the question of how this must look like so that it does.
this, it is a few key points: 1
Choose models
Find a person who was ever in a similar situation and has made it.
a good friend, a colleague, a supervisor ...
and are related to this person and ask yourself this: "What can the manager or what I did not create
could also" Nothing!
2 Set goals
Contact quite clear and unambiguous goals. What you do not know for how to reach, with whom and by what
measures? And ask yourself this honestly: "The goal is really my goal?"
To achieve great things are, stamina, endurance and much energy is required. Our brain
is both available if we are really enthusiastic about a task.
Bring your destination for in an image expression. This is not just a one- Will,
but has practiced every day and then gradually automated.
3 Set sub-goals and make the path of small steps
If there is a big task, break it into small sections. This approach to the
setting and walking in small steps, you will need to provide more frequent experiences of success.
confirm this on your ways and you always give new courage.
consciously experience 4 New
Break free from routines. Because faced with new situations, drawing on our thinking organ his
full capacity. The reaction time decreases, increasing the attention and spread the reward center
well-being. Thus gained experience lay the foundation for what motivates a person.
5 Reward yourself and enjoy your successes
Is something successful, you should also attribute the success itself. Who does not, but rather
always others for success blames, forfeits motivated. If you have reached so your part line
, reward yourself with a little thing, looking forward to you in advance.
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